THE POWER OF A WOMAN

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The above mentioned phrase have been clichéd with a good number of people not having the slightest knowledge of what it stands for or represents. I did a little research in my 'mind's lab', observed and came up with the following definitions for the power of a woman.

-It leaves a man confused about whom to choose amongst several women. (A lot of men would agree that their judgements get clouded sometimes)

-It makes a student forget that he has got loads of books to read. (Undergraduatenna anyi's knows better or could explain)

-It makes a grown man behave childishly putting aside the fact that he is an adult. (I mean, many a man have found themselves in this position)

-It is that which the advertising industry have taken advantage of in order to sell products ranging from cars, houses, services down to groceries and household items.

-It makes a man walk under the sun even when he would have preferred a shade.

-It turns great men into objects of ridicule. (The former US president who had a problem with his fly could tell you more)

-It makes 5 hours spent with a woman seem like 5 seconds. (Especially when it is a 'just married' situation or when a relationship is still very much new)

-It creates great enmity between supposed inseparable best friends. (Yours truly could attest to this one)

-Sadly, it is that which makes sanity leave a man and then makes him a killer, serial killer or rather go on a shooting spree.

- Also, it is that which could get a man a top job or make him descend from that position.

-It makes men who have taken a vow of celibacy to sometimes think otherwise. (Trust me, e dey hold them sometimes but thank God for grace)

-It makes a man talk gibberish and thinks he is making sense. (Based on toasting level)

-It is that which makes a man spend the last of his money and tells himself "as long as there is life there is hope."

-Funny enough, it makes some men cry when they didn't mean to.

The definitions are inexhaustible and the list could even make up a book if I decide to continue, indeed God works extra hard each time he assembles a woman and so those set of people should be treated with utmost care and respect.

Cheers!

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Twitter: @victorikeji

IMO WOMEN ARE PROMISCUOUS AND OTHER LIES...

The statement 'Imo women are promiscuous' is one of those lies that have been told severally that it begin to seem true and cool to say or use. That one girl/woman is doesn't mean all of them is or that it runs in their blood like some people had suggested. It is just like saying 'yoruba women are party-freaks' when I know of some that would not attend the periodical 'owambe' for a whole year.

This brings to mind other clichès like "Nigerians are 419ners and cyber criminals" "Calabar people are sex freaks" "Benin is the hub of witchcraft in Nigeria" etc

What these lies does is, it takes charge of our perceptions consciously or subconsciously and then forms our judgment of the said people, race or country and when this happens, it affects how these people are being related or interacted with.

Some very quick examples, businesses or transactions that have Nigeria on it or are operated by Nigerians are always suspected to be fraudulent even if they are genuine. Most websites are inaccessible to Nigerians for fear of breaching its security or swindling its users. Each time a Calabar person (a word commonly use to refer to people from Akwa Ibom and Cross-river states in Nigeria) is spotted, it is assumed that he/she would be a pro or love to do it not minding the fact that a good number of them don't even have an inkling for sex. We always hear words like ‘benin witch’ and other stereotypical words that tends to associate Benin city or its people with the practice of witchcraft even when a good number of these people has never had anything to do with such practices.

Back to the statement "Imo women are promiscuous", this has stereotype written all over it because anybody can be; only that people always seem to notice it when an imo person is involved. At one particular time, the statement almost took its toll on me as I joined the bandwagon and the bandwagon effect was almost shaping my perception of all imo people especially the women until I met more of them, got to interact with and even stayed a long while with them.

The statement remains a fallacy of hasty generalization and should best be discontinued so that the younger generation whose minds are very receptive wouldn't have a one sided cum biased mindset about this group of people which would in turn affect the way they relate with or perceive imo people. The long term effect of this stereotype could be a comformation of the affected people to that which they are been identified with. There could also be problems in relationships involving the said people as they sometimes would lack the trust of the person they are in a relationship with because of a belief that they are promiscuous.

Just a few questions to clear the air on this one, is promiscuity hereditary or carried in the gene? If my father and two other friends that happen to be from Anambra supports Barcelona, does it automatically make me a Barca fan? If there are a few headless matchstick in a matchbox, does it mean that all the matchsticks in the box are headless?

Let’s put on our thinking caps and stop these unnecessary stereotypes!

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Twitter: @victorikeji

8 REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT [According to women]

After getting a lot of 'nothing really' and 'I just felt like' from a good number of men on the question -why do men cheat? I decided to find out from the female folks why they think most men cheat. Some of their reasons might seem untrue or out of place but the following are the reasons why men cheat as told by women.

1)The Feminine forgiving spirit: A lot of women think that their ability to accept a cheating man back after listening to his 'I-am-sorry-sermon' is the main reason why men would continue to cheat on them. According to Marilyn: "A man knows that he can get away with it (cheating) as long as he knows that he would be forgiven if he begs afterwards".


2) Guys likes varieties: A lot of women agreed that men would always cheat because they prefer many to one. What this implies is that men just want to have many women around them and end up.. You know what I mean. A lady says: "They want one who could cook very well, another just because she is beautiful and the go-to girl when there is an occasion and a third to warm his bed". Varieties?! hmmm...

3)Just for fun: Women believe that some men cheat just because they want to or because it is fun to them. They have a girlfriend/wife yet they just want some little adventure atleast to boost their ego amongst their friends. A lady narrated how she ended up on a man's bed after a party only to find out that a bet was placed on her head.

4) They believe women sees it as their lifestyle: Some women argued that the reason a man would cheat on his girlfriend/wife is because the female folks sees it as their mode of life, some would say' it's their nature, men would always cheat.' A good number of the female folks think it's something that had become a part of them and can only be stopped by spiritual intervention.

5) Greed: According to the 'Eves', men just want to have the next woman they meet in the bar, that supposed sexy friend of his girlfriend/wife, the lady he buys recharge cards from, his boss' daughter to themselves.

6) When they are not getting what they need from the relationship: Some ladies opines that when a man is not shown enough love and care in the relationship, he seeks it somewhere else and the other woman's bedroom in this case is not far. They spoke further that if a man prefers a 'Wild cat' during the act and all he gets is this 'gentle dove', he is forced to go in search of his preference.

7) Influence from friends: "Show me his friends and I'd tell you who your man is" Ada said when talking about how some men are influenced by their friends. She went further to state that "A man who has 2 to 3 cheating close friends who'd always explain how good it feels 'tapping' simultaneously from two unsuspecting females is forced to try it out someday"

8)Heartbreak(s) from previous relationships: During the survey, this constituted over 45% of the replies I got as a good number of women believes that a man who has suffered heartbreak(s) from his past relationship sees no other reason to be faithful. Feeling hurt and rejected, he would prefer to keep many not minding whether history repeat itself or not.

Twitter: @victorikeji